Why great mates make life better

There’s something truly special about friendships later in life. They’re more than social catch-ups – they’re good for our health, happiness, and overall wellbeing.

And science backs it up. A University of Michigan study found 90 percent of people over 50 have at least one close friend – many have several. These aren’t just friends for the fun times either. They’re the ones who check in when you’re not feeling great, lend a hand when life gets tricky, and make the good days even better.

Fewer friends, stronger bonds

As we get older, most of us naturally shift from big social circles to a few close connections. It’s not about having fewer friends – it’s about having the right ones.

Psychologist Katherine Fiori calls this ‘social refining’. It’s when we focus on the people who really matter – the ones who show up, make us laugh, and have our back. Research shows that strong, supportive relationships like these can even help protect us from chronic illness.

In fact, a long-term Queensland study following more than 7,600 women found that those happiest in their relationships – including their friendships – were much less likely to develop serious health conditions.

New mates matter too

While long-time friendships are golden, making new ones is just as important, especially if you’ve had a life change like moving house or retiring.

New friends bring fresh energy, different perspectives and new shared experiences. And it’s often the simple things that spark these connections, such as saying yes to a morning walk, joining a class, or having a yarn over a cuppa.

Living Gems communities are built for these kinds of moments. Whether it’s a neighbourly wave, a shared hobby or a casual chat by the pool, you’ll find plenty of easy ways to meet like-minded people and make meaningful connections.

Nine simple ways to grow your circle

You don’t need to be a social butterfly to build strong friendships. A few small steps go a long way:

• Say yes more often: That invite could lead to laughs, good conversation and maybe even a great new mate.
• Be the organiser: Start something simple like a regular coffee catch-up, trivia night or Friday drinks on the driveway.
• Join in: From yoga to painting to pickleball, shared interests are a great way to meet people.
• Check in: If someone’s been quiet, reach out. A quick message can mean a lot.
• Share your stories: Don’t hold back. Real conversations are how friendships deepen.
• Try something new: A new activity is a fresh chance to connect.
• Bring people together: Host a low-key afternoon tea or potluck. It’s not about fancy, it’s about friendliness.
• Be a good neighbour: Whether it’s a smile, a wave, or a helping hand, it all adds up.

Mateship that matters

Friendship doesn’t have to be complicated. It just takes a little effort, a bit of openness, and a willingness to show up.

At Living Gems, we’re proud to create communities where these connections come naturally. Where the neighbours become friends – and the everyday becomes extraordinary.

Because life’s simply better with great mates by your side.